What If, What If, What If


I know we all think about it – the What Ifs in our lives.

I also know it can be very detrimental to how we feel if we continuously dwell on them.

I have many What Ifs and wanted to share a few of them with you to get them off of my chest.

What If… my grandpa (my mom’s dad) hadn’t died when I was 5 months old?  Would my life be completely different?  Would my mom have turned to alcohol to cope with the loss as well as her anxiety?  Would my mom still be alive today?  Would there have been less struggle and tragedy on that side of my family?

What If… I had been brave enough to confront my mother about her drinking?  Would she have taken what I had to say to heart?  Would she have changed?  Would she still be with us today?

What If… I had took more risks and let loose more when I was a young adult?  Would I be more outgoing?  Would I have more friends?  Would I feel like I lived a little more?

What If… my mom hadn’t suffered from anxiety?  Would I not suffer from it either?

What If… I hadn’t left university and completed my degree?  Would I feel more accomplished?  Where would I be now?  Would I have met my husband anyway and still have had our two beautiful kids?

What If… I continued working at my former high school in my library position?  Would I be happier?  Or would I still feel torn between two different worlds; working vs being at home?  Would I still be commuting or would we have moved to the community I worked in?

What If… my dad hadn’t met my step-mom?

What If… one of my kids got really sick, or my husband, or myself even?

What If… I died tomorrow?

What If… What If… What If…

Do you see how crazy you can drive yourself with all of the What Ifs running through your head?  These thoughts can trap and plague you.  The What Ifs can hinder you from moving on from past events.  They also fuel anxiety.

But most of all, your What Ifs prevent you from living your life to its fullest.

Instead of concentrating on the What Ifs in my life, I have to accept What Is.

The past cannot be changed.

And I am the only one in control of my future.

I love this quote I read the other day: Don’t believe everything you think.

Most of our What If thoughts are negative.  What If… we turned those What Ifs into positive thoughts?  Positive self-talk can work wonders and can totally change our mood.  I am going to continue practising this great strategy and hopefully put all of my What Ifs behind me.

Brandy Reid is a stay at home mom to two very active and hockey obsessed boys. As a former YA librarian, Brandy loves to read and is obsessed with reading everyday whether it be books or blogs. Brandy proudly admits that she is a wee bit addicted to social media, especially Twitter. She also believes that everything in life you can related to the iconic TV Show Friends. No day is complete without chocolate.

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