In Regards to Your NekNomination Dear Facebook Friend


Alcohol NekNomination


Haven’t heard of it yet? Well, you are going to get an ear full about it from me.

I have read about NekNomination all across the Internet these past few weeks in message boards I frequent as well as on Twitter and Facebook.

A NekNomination is like a dare. A person downs a deadly mixture of alcohol (or an obscene amount of one type of liquor) while being filmed performing the act. When the person has completed their task they nominate another friend or two to do the same.

I saw my first video of someone performing his NekNomination challenge last night.

I wasn’t searching such a video out. It was right there – right in front of me – in my Facebook newsfeed. My children could have seen it!

The reason I saw this NekNomination video was because a Facebook friend of mine had been tagged in the video (please note that he did not actually appear in the video). The person in the video accepted the challenge, drank his cocktail of choice, and said the words I dreaded to hear, “I nominate [insert friend’s name here].”

I was in pure and utter shock. I was infuriated!

I had to walk away from my computer for a few hours after seeing the video I was shaking so much. I had a few choice words for this young person and I was about to hit send on my comment. I could legitimately comment on his video because he had tagged our mutual friend in the video. But I bit my tongue and closed my computer for a couple of hours.

After calming myself down I returned to the video and watched in complete disgust as people were liking the video and making joke type comments afterward. The person in the video even stated that he had driven home after he drank the cocktail (and a beer afterward as he apparently needed to clear his palate?!?!).

Really? People think this is fun? That this is some kind of a joke?

I sure as heck do not find it funny.

These people don’t realize how deadly the game they are playing is. It’s like Russian roulette but the weapon is alcohol and not a gun. And death… well, it may come quickly or it may not.

Sadly, I do know how dangerous this game is. I saw alcohol slowly kill my mother. I saw her take her last breath. I saw my dad whisper in her ear as she left this Earth. It is something that I will never forget. There is a constant emptiness in our family that will never be filled again.

And people have already died due to NekNomination.

Further, people need to realize that what you put out there on the Internet stays there. You may think that only your friends in your profile see it. But you are wrong. You can delete your posts or videos but that doesn’t mean they still aren’t out there. Who knows, maybe someone just happened to take a screen capture of the video and the ensuing conversation (or saved the video to their computer). They can then pass that video around for others to see including your parents, your future employer, and even law enforcement. It won’t go away. Your actions will be out there for the entire world to see. And it could have detrimental effects on your future.

NekNomination Daring Acts Lead To Tragic Ends

To My Dear Facebook Friend,

I consider you a friend and part of my family. You know what my family has been through. You saw it.

And let me tell you this…

Daring acts lead to tragic ends.

How many times have we seen tragic ends like this in the media? The deaths of celebrities like Judy Garland, River Phoenix, and more recently Cory Monteith and Philip Seymour Hoffman bring it to the fore front. Young, promising lives – gone too soon.

We are not invincible.

We are only given one chance at this life.

There are no do-overs.

An act like this NekNomination could be your last. Do you want that to be your legacy? Do you want to be another statistic?

You are an intelligent person. I know you will make the right decision.

I have a challenge for you my friend.

Let’s turns this negative into a positive.

Make a video of yourself accepting your friend’s nomination.

However, not an ounce of alcohol will touch your lips.

Instead perform a random act of kindness and film it.

You could donate blood.

Shovel your neighbour’s sidewalk.

Help a senior walk across the street.

Donate to charity.

Boost a friend’s car.

Volunteer at your local humane society.

Buy a coffee and a snack for the person behind you.

Give flowers to a co-worker.

The possibilities are endless!

Then in your video, nominate others to do the same.

Ask them to pay the kindness forward.

We should all use social media for good and not evil.


Your Friend Brandy

Here is a video of an awesome Canadian fellow who accepted the challenge and turned this NekNomination into a positive.

Brandy Reid is a stay at home mom to two very active and hockey obsessed boys. As a former YA librarian, Brandy loves to read and is obsessed with reading everyday whether it be books or blogs. Brandy proudly admits that she is a wee bit addicted to social media, especially Twitter. She also believes that everything in life you can related to the iconic TV Show Friends. No day is complete without chocolate.


  1. Jessica @ Just a Mum?
    February 13, 2014 at 10:03 AM

    I’m glad you wrote this, Brandy, and I’m going to share it with everyone I know. I hope that your friend listens to you as well. I don’t know when people started confusing stupidity with bravery. It is not brave or daring to do something that could take your life for the entertainment of others. It’s just plain, flat out, stupid. Smarten up, Humanity. There is enough suffering in the world without adding this kind of crap.

  2. Courtney
    February 13, 2014 at 10:11 AM

    I’ve seen videos like years ago, where youtubers would down what people in the comments suggested they should. I didn’t realize it had become a trend… this is terrifying.

  3. SL
    February 14, 2014 at 11:44 AM

    I am always so surprised when grown ups do such stOOpid things. It is bad enough that adolescents feel pressured or are easily led – they are not fully formed! There’s a lot going on there. Not always obvious. Often scary. Often dangerous.

    But for an ADULT to do something so ridiculous under the guise of bravery? Please! I can’t even begin to imagine what that foolish train of thought is – nor do I want to know, frankly, if I’m to be honest.

    I’m glad you wrote this post. I have never heard of “NekNominations”. (What does that even mean, btw?) Now I have learned something new, so thank you! :D

    I love the way you ended this post. (I prefer my RAK to remain private, though! ;))

    It’s a fact that YOLO. Don’t you want that “once” to leave a positive impact on the world?

  4. Nancy
    April 20, 2014 at 11:53 PM

    That is disgusting, and so very dangerous. I’m glad your friend posted something the opposite. It made me smile.

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